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The Good Points of Being ‘Not O.K’ in Life

Life is full of struggles they say. Looking back at our past events, life is all struggle, all chaos, all adventurous, all meaningless, all meaningful, all nothing, and all everything. Life is what we think.


One thing true with most of us was that many times in life, life is absolutely ‘not O.K.’ for us. During those times we would be facing conditions. We didn't understand what was happening, or in which way, although we knew that they (the conditions) were all going against us. We couldn't find a way out. We had no one to speak out to for those persons we wanted to speak out to were sometimes, unexpectedly, main parts of the problem. Although there was a way out of the conditions, things seemed to be, for us at least, that silently suffering alone was better than trying to break through, for which we would need to sacrifice our previous beliefs, relationships with the loved ones, and the ongoing status quos of everything. So, we secretly suffered and fell into that black hole called 'depression'. Yes, one aspect of life is depression after depression for everybody.


We needed to struggle, needed to find new angles for looking at things differently, to learn endless lessons, to make adjustments with everything, or even totally changing of our ways of life and environment. Scholars term these activities as 'adaptations' for those who could adapt and adjust to survive. That is 'The Survival of the Fittest'.


But what about the virtues we are meant to hold onto as our treasures? Those virtues of life are actually larger than life to us all, aren't they? Consideration for others, love, compassion, community spirit, a sense of belonging, freedom, and others because there is more to life than simply 'our survival'. We all know that.


One good point (upon reflection) of being not O.K. in life is that life is not a monotone picture, endlessly repeating of things. It always asks changes upon us, and yes, we needed to change. We have changed endlessly. In essence, it is all interesting (although full of pains) for us to be this way.


The game is all about intelligence. All the happenings in life are, in many a ways, simply life’s tests and exams for us. We need to learn endlessly and to answer life's questions endlessly, and in that way we have been designed to gain more and more of intelligence. And the more we gain higher levels of intelligence, the more we can see things clearly and develop higher understandings and more forgiveness. They liberate us from much sufferings.


Everybody suffers. That understanding we can gain, by only truly living our life bravely. We are here to help one another. No struggle would mean no failures or no success, but then, no lessons to be extracted from life after all. That would be extremely scary, wouldn’t it?

But what do all life lessons uniformly point to? They point to virtues, then to our survival. Yes, we may win, or we may lose, we are meant to hold onto our virtues, otherwise we fail in life in absolute terms, for life as we know it may not be 'life' after all, as we collectively term it.


In many ways, it seems life is a testing (a sort of a game) to us all. Life does have rules of the games which are set by nature, doesn't it? If we only see it in illusions and are not playing cleanly to win, and not obeying the set rules would mean you know nothing, or you learn nothing. We need to play well in this God's testing. Those were the lessons I learned from my many events in life, where I was extremely down and out and no O.K. Thanks God, if it were 'always O.K', I would have gained no intelligence. I like this 'me' much more than the previous me’s, and I confess, I am so addicted to the struggling now that I have gotten to know their tastes.


God , what a game programmer 'You' are!


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